‘Men need to speak out’: Dundee women in early 40s most likely to report mental health condition

‘Men need to speak out’: Dundee women in early 40s most likely to report mental health condition

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‘I tried to do pills, slit my wrists, drink, everything’: Dundee folk recall suicidal experiences

Every day in Scotland, an average of two people die from suicide.

It is the leading cause of death among people aged 20-34 in the UK – with the rate considerably higher among men.

Sadly, it’s an issue all too familiar to many in Dundee – so much so that it’s led to intense scrutiny of local mental health services and an inquiry being launched. All last week, events were held to highlight the issue for Suicide Prevention Week. As part of that, the Tele has spoken to four people who have attempted to take their own lives, about their experiences and how they came through them.

They’re all members of the Blue Wings group, set up in Dundee by Robbie Russell after his frustration grew at the “underfunded” mental health services on offer in Tayside.

The group previously led calls for patrols to be introduced to the Tay Road Bridge, following a number of incidents involving people contemplating suicide or taking their lives on the crossing.

Dave Johnston

Dave Johnston, 43, from Claverhouse, became aware of suicide in a previous workplace.

He said: “Part of my day-to-day work involves taxying when my other operation is out of season so I quite regularly meet people in the taxis who experience mental health problems and suicidal tendencies. My own personal belief is that people are let down by the system.

“Right now if someone goes up to Carseview, they’ll be turned away on the vast majority of occasions without any treatment at all.”

Although the issue is common throughout Tayside, Dave said he has seen people around him being afraid to admit their dark thoughts to the authorities, calling for more effort to bring understanding to the system.

Dave said: “I’ve got experience from speaking to somebody very recently who had attempted their own life and were taken to Carseview.

“They were taken overnight and their only experience the next morning was that a police surgeon spoke to them and asked if they still felt suicidal. Nobody in their right mind would say yes because they don’t want to be kept in police custody and they were released that morning.”

He said including people who have experienced suicide themselves is needed in the system.

He said: “The folk that deal with these issues day in and day out may have ideas about it but perhaps the best people to talk to them and give them advice are the people that are suffering from the problems themselves.

“We still live in a very macho environment where it’s seen as a weakness to speak about these types of things. It’s not a weakness, it’s an illness.”

Robbie Russell

Robbie Russell, 28, from Arbroath, said he became angry and lonely during his teenage years, eventually attempting suicide at age 16 for the first time.

He said: “I was fine when I was younger, but when I got to my teenage years, I was quite angry.

“I was seen as a bad kid.

“I was never recognised as someone with mental health issues. It followed me into my late teens – I started getting arrested and turned to drugs as a shield to get out of it but it didn’t work.”

Robbie said he struggled to open up about the way he was feeling.

He added: “It was instilled into me about pride. You’re a man, you’re not really supposed to have feelings.

“That’s not the case – we’re all human and everyone feels an emotion and everyone should be allowed to express it.

“The first person I told was my mum. She’s always been my rock, I have always been a bit of a mummy’s boy. She has talked me out of a lot of situations.”

At his most vulnerable, Robbie started hiding under his bed and felt like he was not being taken seriously.

“I was let down by the system. Back then, there was far too much ignorance – everyone was just playing you off like you’re an attention-seeker,” he said.

Robbie later founded the Blue Wings group to help others who were feeling suicidal with the hope of developing the Facebook group into a charity.

“I started getting a lot better and opening up a lot more than I used to,” he said.

“I started accepting things a lot more.”

Tina Grant

Aged 13, Tina Grant, from Douglas, tried to take her own life for the first time. She said she would do anything to get the pain she was feeling out of her head.

Tina said: “I felt dead for such a long time. I tried to do pills, slit my wrists, drink, everything.

“I didn’t know how to deal with it all so I thought that was the only way to do it.

“When you’re in a dark place and have so many bad things going on in your life, you just want to escape it.”

Tina, now 35, went through her suicide attempts for two years before telling her mum.

She said: “I hid it from my mum and stepdad for a long time and when they actually saw the razor on my wrists, that is when they got the help for me when I was about 15.

“I never really had anyone to talk to and speaking to someone is such a helpful tool.”

Although Tina admits she has not fully recovered from feelings of suicide, she is able to face the day more easily after opening up to other people.

She said: “I still deal with it now but I’m dealing with it a lot better because instead of turning to drink, I talk to my friends and family and that makes me feel so much better.

“It was like a weight had been lifted off me and I felt like a new person.

“I felt happier, freer and alive.”

Now, Tina is looking to get into care work and help others who are feeling suicidal.

She said: “If nobody knows of the groups available to you, go online and talk to people – it’s the best thing to do. Nobody is alone.”

Gavin Elliot

Gavin Elliot, 20, from Broughty Ferry, has been on the edge of the Tay Road Bridge three times and still feels like he has not overcome his suicidal thoughts.

He said: “I was in care since I was about seven. Life was tough from the beginning.

“I tried multiple times to kill myself – whether it was sticking scissors to my throat, jumping off the bridge, trying to hang myself, trying to suffocate myself.

“Anything that I could try, I tried it because I thought the only way out was to end myself.”

He added: “Last time I tried was two years ago when my father passed away.

“I was at the edge of the Tay Road Bridge on the other side of the barrier when police came and they pulled me away.”

Gavin said he kept himself hidden from the world and only started talking to others when his support workers noticed.

He said: “Every day I’d wake up in the morning and think, why? What’s the point in me waking up when it is the same old routine every day? I would spend months on end in my house alone with no visitors – no physical contact, nothing. I sat alone and blocked everyone out.”

After ending up on the bridge, he was taken to Dundee’s Carseview mental health facility but said he did not receive much support.

“People at Carseview would look at me, say I was OK and send me home without any treatment whatsoever,” he claimed.

To get his life back on track, Gavin said he turned to BMXing which has helped him through his difficulties.

 

 

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FMQs: Nicola Sturgeon challenged on denying children mental health treatment

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Jonny Benjamin on publishing’s role in raising mental health awareness

 

For Mental Health Awareness Week, we spoke to mental health campaigner Jonny Benjamin MBE, whose important and life-affirming memoir The Stranger on the Bridge (Bluebird) was released earlier this month.

The moving title chronicles the journey Benjamin undertook in 2014, to find and thank the stranger who stopped and saved his life, six years previously.

 

Jonny Benjamin on publishing's role in raising mental health awareness

What inspired you to write The Stranger on the Bridge?
This year marks ten years since I had my first breakdown, received my diagnosis and went to the bridge to take my own life. Finally I am in a very different place and have learnt a great deal about my own mind and mental health in general over the past decade. It felt very timely to write about my journey now.

Have you always been interested in writing? How did it feel revisiting the childhood diaries that you sample throughout?
Writing has always been incredibly therapeutic for me. Growing up I found it difficult to express my mental health issues vocally, so writing became a key outlet. Revisiting my childhood diaries was a challenging but cathartic experience. I knew I’d been distressed throughout my youth, but I had forgotten just how much I was struggling in silence.

What was the most challenging part of the project?
I think the most challenging part of the project was finally letting the manuscript go and it being published for people to read. It is such a personal and intimate book, and there was a lot in there that people didn’t know about so I felt extremely nervous in the weeks leading up to publication. Now that people have started reading it though and the response has been overwhelmingly positive I feel much more relaxed.

What impact are you hoping the book will have on its readers?
I hope it will give the reader an insight into mental illness that perhaps they haven’t had before. More than anything, I would like the book to offer those that are struggling some hope that they can overcome the adversities they are experiencing.

What has the reaction been like since sharing your story?
The reaction has been so positive. Mental health is something that touches so many of us. For such a long time it has been a taboo, but finally the silence and the stigma attached to mental illness seems to be shifting.

You’re a passionate mental health campaigner – would you say that public perception of mental health has changed or evolved in recent years? What part do you think publishing plays in this?
Publishing can play a huge role in changing attitudes towards a topic like mental health. Matt Haig’s powerful bestseller Reasons To Stay Alive helped my Mum to understand and talk about mental illness with me for the first time.

It’s an exciting time in terms of publishing on this subject. I’m seeing more and more books focusing on this area. I’m particularly looking forward to reading Natasha Devon’s A Beginners Guide To Being Mental which is published later this month. I know that it’s going to be a groundbreaking book about mental health.

Do you think the industry has a responsibility to be sharing more stories like this?
For a long time we’ve only had the opportunity to read primarily challenging stories on mental health. Ken Kesey’s One Flew Over The Cuckoo’s Nest is a prime example of this. It is a gripping story but ultimately it is one of despair and hopelessness.

I would love to see more stories on bookshelves that offer the reader hope, whilst remaining accurate and honest, of course. Matthew Quick’s The Silver Linings Playbook is one such book which is hopeful and yet doesn’t shy away from the day to day, difficult reality of living with a mental illness.

Finally, are you working on anything new at the moment?
Myself and Britt Pflüger, who I co-wrote this first book with, are now working on our second book. It will be a tribute to overcoming adversity, with contributions from various individuals who have achieved it. I’m really looking forward to working on this book. Writing The Stranger On The Bridge was hard at times because of its content, but our new book will be much lighter and more positive.

Going forwards I think I would love to write books on mental health for children and young people. 75% of all mental health issues start in adolescence so it’s vital we address the subjects of mental illness and suicide from a young age. I know it would have made a real difference to me to have read a book on mental illness when I was suffering silently in my teenage years.

 

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Scott Hutchison tributes: ‘His music meant so much to people’

Scott Hutchison

Friends from within the Scottish music scene have spoken of the “pure joy” Scott Hutchison brought to their lives – and the impact his music had on his fans.

The Frightened Rabbit singer’s body was found on Thursday night near North Queensferry, almost two days after he was reported missing.

Scott – who had talked openly about his mental health and depression – had written a tweet late on Tuesday saying “I’m away now.”

His friends say his legacy will live on in his music, which helped so many deal with their own struggles.

Roddy Woomble, the lead singer of Idlewild, told BBC Scotland that he struck up a friendship with Scott because of a mutual admiration for each others’ work.

Idlewild
Idlewild singer Roddy Woomble formed a friendship with Scott

Roddy said that when they first met, Scott had told him how he’d grown up listening to Idlewild.

But Roddy was blown away when he started listening to Frightened Rabbit.

‘The soundtrack to people’s lives’

He said: “Frightened Rabbit’s music is beautiful. Scott was an extremely talented songwriter because he could make a connection with his audience. It’s not something everybody can do.

“When you write lyrics that make sense, are honest and from your heart then other people can understand them.

“Songs can have such a big impact, especially if they hit you at the right time in life.

“Frightened Rabbit have been around for 15 years now, so they will have been the soundtrack to some people’s lives. A generation grew up listening to them.

“If you were 15 when you got into them, you are 30 now, and that’s an important and influential portion of your life.

“You remember that kind of music for the rest of your life.

“His music meant so much to people and it’s sad that he felt that alone when he was surrounded by so many people who loved him.”

Frightened Rabbit
Scott Hutchison formed Frightened Rabbit with his brother Grant

Scott had spoken openly about his mental health and his battle with depression.

He talked about it in song lyrics, and sometimes in interviews.

In an interview last year, he said: “Sometimes I wish I had a better mode of communication for when I’m feeling depressed, anxious, any of those things, but it tends to just work itself out into a song.

“That’s the way it’s always been for me.”

Roddy said he had never seen a “darkness” in Scott.

‘I don’t want to believe it’

“You could see in his eyes there was something going on, and obviously through his music and lyrics you could hear it,” he said.

“But my experience of him was one of pure joy – he was a joy to spend time with.

“Once we got to know each other we hung around socially. One of the last times I saw him was at the International Book Festival in Edinburgh last year. Afterwards we went out to Optimo.”

Roddy said he knew Scott as “a gregarious guy”.

He added: “He seemed to love that socialising, the being with people.

“It’s terribly sad and I am devastated. I just don’t want to believe it.

“I knew that Scott struggled with mental health issues and depression but I just didn’t think it would come to this.”

Frightened Rabbit perform at Glastonbury in 2013

Radio Scotland DJ Vic Galloway became friends with Scott after he started playing Frightened Rabbit on his show.

He said: “I considered Scott a friend, not just somebody I play on the radio.

“I have been playing Scott on the radio for more than a decade, probably since about 2006. I champion new music and am always on the hunt for something interesting.

“Then along came Frightened Rabbit.

“I started playing their stuff and featuring them live in session and as a result I got to know him.

“He was a down to earth, funny, straight forward sort of guy which is why I can’t really get my head around all of this.

“He was an emotional guy – you can tell by the lyrics of all of his songs, right from the beginning all the way to the Mastersystem album.”

Frightened Rabbit
Frightened Rabbit in session with Vic Galloway in 2016

He added: “He wore his heart on his sleeve and I could tell when I was hanging out with him that he considered what he was saying all the time.

“Scott was an intelligent man, he checked himself the whole time.

“I tended to see him when he was out and about at gigs or parties, and he was on good form.

“He was a tender guy, but I never thought it would go to this extreme.

“He was always cheerful when I saw him. He might have been cynical about life but he was always laughing at it.

“This is obviously internal angst and the battle he was going through has manifested itself in his actions.

“It was a side that I didn’t see personally very often.”

‘He sang from his heart’

Vic added: “His songs dealt with heartache, mental health, and the day to day trouble and strife that people go through. That’s why it connected with people.

“He sang from his heart, he sang from the bottom of his lungs, he really gave it everything he could on stage and on record.

“Scott’s passing will be mourned in Scotland and across the world.

“The poignant descriptions of the state of his own heart and his own vulnerabilities.

“Those songs will resonate with people for years to come.”

Isabella Goldie, director of development at the Mental Health Foundation Scotland, met Scott when he helped campaign with the charity.

During that time he ran music events, produced a CD and worked with a small music mentoring charity to help people suffering mental health issues to promote their music.

She said he was a generous and kind person, and “nothing was too much to ask of him”.

‘Demons and struggles’

Isabella added: “When I first worked with Scott about 10 years ago, he was really happy and optimistic.

“But over the years it started to become obvious that his moods had become a major issue for him.

“We were all concerned and did reach out to Scott but it’s really difficult for men to speak out and accept that help.

“We have somehow created a society in which it is really difficult for men to come forward and say how they feel.

“Obviously he had his own demons and struggles and it is beyond sad that he couldn’t manage those.”

 

 

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Suicide prevention ‘not a top priority’ in Scotland

Hand on shoulder

A leading charity dealing with suicide prevention has said the Scottish government is not treating the issue as a top priority.

The Samaritans commissioned a poll which indicated 61% of people in Scotland have been affected by suicide.

Almost 40% of those taking part said they would not know who to turn to if they were supporting someone in crisis.

The Scottish government is drawing up a new prevention plan and said it was spending over £1bn on mental health.

In 2016, there were 728 probable suicides in Scotland. This was an 8% rise on the previous year.

Most of those who die are men, 71% in 2016.

Crisis support

The Samaritans poll, which included more than 1,000 people in Scotland, found:

  • 61% of people in Scotland have some experience of suicide
  • 89% would support suicide prevention training for professionals
  • Almost 40% would not know where to turn if they were supporting someone in crisis
  • 29% have either supported a close friend or family member through feelings of suicide, or lost a close friend or family member to suicide

Samaritans executive director for Scotland James Jopling said: “This shows this issue may not be taken as seriously as it should be; that it’s not an issue we are seeing embedded in the Justice Department, in education and how we support young people.

“In other functions of government we are not seeing the reflection of this issue. Our feeling is, it’s not being seen on the levels it should be.

“We have a dedicated mental health minister, she should and can be the person to champion our efforts on this and that’s what we want to see.”

Investing resources

The Scottish government is drawing up a plan for suicide prevention, with the consultation on it closing earlier this week.

Minister for Mental Health Maureen Watt said: “We are investing more and more money in mental health every year.

“The past year (2017/18) we saw for the first time £1bn invested in mental health and now we’ve got an extra £150m on top of that for this next year.

“Mental health and suicide prevention is a very important part of the Scottish government’s actions going forward.”

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‘Kindness and compassion’

Four years ago, 28-year-old Nicola Saunders tried to take her own life.

She had been struggling with mental health problems since she was 10 years old.

Nicola Saunders

“Physically, I felt as if there was a ball inside of my stomach, that it would squeeze quite a lot and when it squeezed I couldn’t bear it, I just wanted to curl up into a ball and scream and cry.”

With nobody close who could help her and she says she felt totally alone.

“I was in the psychiatric unit for three weeks. I didn’t have any support, I didn’t really have any familial support.

“I was discharged and I didn’t have any support in place whatsoever. I didn’t have anywhere to live at the time and I was basically told that if I was going to leave I would be homeless.”

Nicola now runs a survivors group, offering help she felt was missing for her at the time. She is calling for a more open discussion around suicide in Scotland.

“Kindness and compassion is what is needed,” she says. “I think we just need to not be afraid to talk about it, openly, then it’s not scary and it’s like, we can solve this.”

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Details of organisations which offer advice and support are available at BBC Action Line or you can call for free, at any time, to hear recorded information 0800 066 066.

 

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